Notes on Living
If you’re going to do any kind of important (therefore controversial) work, you can really only care about what approximately 10 people in the world think about you. Choose those people carefully.
(Roughly. I’m sure he said it better)
Checking for depression, alcoholism, marijuana, illegitimacy, arrest records, and credit card debt in any group of modern-day Americans, we have to consider how appallingly common these things are in the general population.
For many people, it matters a lot that they feel heard. Often, they don't care if *are* heard, just that they *feel* heard. The bright side of the modern emphasis on feelings as opposed to reality is that you can satisfy people by just making them feel good, which is easier than really helping them. This is akin to how you can satisfy bores by letting them talk a lot in meetings and they don't mind if nobody pays any attention.