This is for potentially useful phrases.
- You can get what you want with a kind word, or you can get it with a gun. But the gun is more likely to work. See https://quoteinvestigator.com/2013/11/03/kind-gun/. See Machiavelli on Love and Fear.
- "pretty dubious deference"
In 1835 Disraeli and Daniel O'Connell quarrelled publicly over press reports that O'Connell had been called a 'traitor and incendiary' by Disraeli. The pair were to fight a duel but the police intervened and Disraeli was bound over to keep the peace. This was the first of their confrontations. In a heated debate in parliament, O'Connell referred to Disraeli's Jewish ancestry in disparaging terms to which Disraeli responded:
- Yes, I am a Jew and when the ancestors of the right honourable gentleman were brutal savages in an unknown island, mine were priests in the temple of Solomon.
See https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Benjamin_Disraeli#1830s. Probably apocryphal.