- "What Sex Really Is," First Things (2022)
Part of my desire for you includes a desire for you to want me. My desire for you also entails wanting you to delight in my desire for you, and for your experience of my desire to increase your desire for me.
If reciprocity is both a good and a morally necessary component of sex, then the importance of consent is rooted in something specific and positive about the nature of sex. But notably, the standard of reciprocity is higher than the standard of mere consent.